The Good Life

                Dating and Courtship   Dating and courtship are terms used to describe the process of finding a romantic partner.      What is dating? Dating is a period in which two people agree to spend more time together. It can be done through phone calls, emails, or text messages. It can also be done in person if the relationship progresses to a point where it is feasible for both parties to see each other again. Dating is when you have an intimate relationship with someone you are interested in but are not yet in a committed relationship with. Dating is the first phase of a relationship between two people. In this phase, the couple explores their feelings for each other and decides if they are interested in going further with their relationship or not. They may also decide to stop dating if they feel it is not working out. Dating may be casual or serious. Dating is a stage in a person's life when they are looking for a ...

  Choosing Your Partner Meeting your partner can take place anywhere, but the criteria you use or the qualities you look out for are what matters whether your meeting will lead to courtship and eventually into marriage or not. This choice is not at once leading into marriage yet, but into a relationship where you are now going to study the person and look out for the other qualities that can convince you that this person is right for you to begin the marriage process. Before you choose a partner for courtship, there are certain fundamental facts/qualities you must consider first.  You should not start a relationship with just anyone and say, after all, I am now going to study to know him or her so, no problem. Is this not the reason why, when a man proposes to a woman, mostly, she will tell him that she is going to think about it? Yes, it is. The lady will use that short period to figure out whether you possess the primary vital qualities to begin a courtship with you at a...

Where To find Love - Meeting Your Partner Where is the best place that is acceptable to meet your life partner? Should it be in the church, or campus, or club? The truth is, there is no perfect place or setting ordained to go and find love. First of all, God is Love, and love is found only in God. Therefore, wherever God is, love can be found there. God is omnipresent. If you are a beginner looking for love, you should have in mind that marriage connections can happen anywhere. Activity is an enemy of affectability, but whenever sensitivity is set up, the stream of love will flow. We should not restrict God to think that we will meet our partner in a speculated place. Some meet during church gatherings, in the office, through phone calls, on social media, through friends, Etc. We must be sensitive and open because we can meet the desired and God-chosen partner anywhere, and there will be a heavenly snap.  Remember, don't let anyone, pastor or elder, bishop or prophet, deacon or...

  Purpose of Marriage Did you know that marriage existed before man was created? The actual purpose of marriage has not been known by many people today, especially the youth. Yet, they run into it because it seems there is a demand on them for it.  Do not rush into any relationship because your dignity is at stake. Some people rush into relationships for many reasons:  1. Pressure from family and friends or church.  2. Some think they are overgrowing and therefore need to marry at all costs at a certain age (the age factor).  3. Some also because of religious purposes.  4. Others want to marry only to have children (family).  5. Few marry to prove a point (to shame someone). All the above reasons for marrying are wrong, that is why there are too many divorces going on.  The main reason for marriage between a man and woman is to fulfill their destiny to the glory of God. If you do not know your destiny, at least get a glimpse of...

  What Really is Marriage? Marriage is a union between a man and a woman after they have gone through all the laid down procedures in the family, and are, therefore, legally, customary, and religiously joined together, declared and recognized as husband and wife. It is not marriage because you did wedding, it can be anyway, anyhow, anytime, anyplace convenient. What is needed is family approval and recognition. If the two families declare and recognize you as husband and wife, that is final, it is marriage.  This can be done at home by your family, it can be done in the court witnessed by your family or in church. No one should deceive you that there must be a certain kind ceremony with sharing food. You don’t need to invite friends and too many people to come and eat, not necessary, that is not part of marriage. I am on the view that many people are not married because they do not know what marriage is, and they have complicated things for themselves. Most of the problems are...

  Marriage is one of the vital areas that forgiveness is also very much needed. The union of two imperfect individuals living under one roof for a lifetime can be a very challenging situation that will demand continuous improvement in the habit of forgiveness; otherwise, it will be a hell for both of them and the children that will join later on. It is so easy and common to be offended and hurt by your spouse since the two of you are humans, imperfect and living together for that matter. You might be offended by his/her words, actions or reactions, unpleasant gestures, and attitude. Even food, Bible study, lateness to church, lovemaking, etc. can bring a misunderstanding that can make one or both couples hurt. But, despite it all, there must be forgiveness.  The problem is that we know very well that human beings are imperfect and full of mistakes because of their weaknesses, but as soon as we get married, we forget all that and expect our partner to be infallible so we get of...

How to Forgive Your Fellow Pastor or Leader Most of the time, many pastors and leaders pretend all is well between themselves and their fellow leaders, yet they will be hurting deep inside their hearts. They have no one to talk to, of course because they are the leaders. When they hear another leader or member talking about the ones they were offended by, they get angry within. Whatever the case may be, it is an offense and must be forgiven, it doesn't matter the severity or intensity. Maybe, this fellow pastor lied on you before other pastors or he conspired against you, or maybe you received a certain favor but he was jealous so he spoke against it before a congregation. Maybe a fellow leader or man of God said you are fake and doesn't come from God. This has made you hurt, and bitterness may have set in. I believe you want to forgive but you don't know how, maybe you are thinking if you use the old ways of calling or going to the person to talk it over, the person may ...

Many have been hurt by a whole family through neglect and rejection. A whole family has to do with both grandparents, parents, uncles, aunties, brothers, and sisters, etc. There is such a thing as whole family neglect or rejection because I have personally met people who have shared their stories with me how they were neglected and rejected by their whole family, none of them ever wanted to and ever helped them until someone they never knew from anywhere helped them to become who and what they are today. Some even didn't have anyone, they had to struggle, hustle, punished themselves with jobs they were not supposed to do, some had to borrow from friends to pay fees and now they have reached where they are today. Maybe you are a victim of such situations and you feel like you don't have a biological family anymore or you may know someone who has gone through what I am talking about here. Help yourself or somebody with this solution: I know by now you have consumed and built ...

There are a lot of bad things that have happened to many people, and we don't want to pretend they never happened. They did happen, and many are still happening that is causing bitterness in most people in our churches, communities, families, companies, countries, etc. And the mass seems not to notice them, or they just overlooked. People are dying inside, no one to talk to concerning their hurt. Some even commit suicide as a result of these problems. Those who are still alive don't know what exactly to do, so they wish it never happened to them, but unfortunately, it has already happened.   Someone's father didn't take care of him or her, but now by the grace of God, (s)he is blessed, and the person is contemplating "can I forgive my father?". Someone also, her mother threw her away or left her somewhere when she was a baby, but through the grace of God, a good Samaritan picked her, and now she's grown up and blessed. She is now asking herself, "...