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How to Forgive Your Fellow Pastor or Leader

Most of the time, many pastors and leaders pretend all is well between themselves and their fellow leaders, yet they will be hurting deep inside their hearts. They have no one to talk to, of course because they are the leaders. When they hear another leader or member talking about the ones they were offended by, they get angry within. Whatever the case may be, it is an offense and must be forgiven, it doesn't matter the severity or intensity.

Maybe, this fellow pastor lied on you before other pastors or he conspired against you, or maybe you received a certain favor but he was jealous so he spoke against it before a congregation. Maybe a fellow leader or man of God said you are fake and doesn't come from God. This has made you hurt, and bitterness may have set in. I believe you want to forgive but you don't know how, maybe you are thinking if you use the old ways of calling or going to the person to talk it over, the person may think you are weak. 

Well, follow these ways I'm about to share with you and by the wisdom of God, things will work out for you in Jesus' name…Amen.

Firstly, as usual, build yourself with the strategic steps discussed in my other post; A willing heart to forgive, love (agape), longsuffering (patience), and faith (hope) of a promising great future of both of you. 

After all that, if you are a pastor or religious leader, remind yourself that both you and the one who has offended you have or serve the same master and you are accountable to Him for your actions.

Romans 14:4 - It is before his own master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make him stand.

1 Corinthians 3:5-6

[5] Who then is Paul, and who is Apollos, but ministers by whom ye believed, even as the Lord gave to every man?

[6] I have planted, Apollos watered; but God gave the increase.

So you see you are all servants or ministers just like Paul and Apollos.

If you cannot forgive a fellow leader or fellow pastor, it means you are suffering from pride. A lot of people do not know that.

How are you both going to stand before your master, knowing that He is the King of Peace? It is also a shame to stand before your master with your heart full of bitterness or while you are not in talking terms with another servant of the same master. Remember that it is the will of the master whom you both serve that you live in peace without any hurt or bitterness against anyone.

When you remind yourself of that, forgive yourself for allowing such bitterness into your heart, receive God's forgiveness too, and tell yourself "I forgive pastor K, leader B, minister J, brother Y or sister G. If he is aware of the offense, you can call and tell him you have forgiven him. 

Then, anytime you stand to preach, to give a talk or something, mention his name and say something good about him or reference him of something he said about what you are preaching about positively. I'm not saying you should preach about him, he is not your message, Christ is your message, but you can use him to make a positive example that you are aware of. He will surely hear it one day when you do that, and he will know you love him and have nothing against him. 

Glory be to God.

 


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