WHAT IS MARRIAGE

 



What Really is Marriage?

Marriage is a union between a man and a woman after they have gone through all the laid down procedures in the family, and are, therefore, legally, customary, and religiously joined together, declared and recognized as husband and wife.

It is not marriage because you did wedding, it can be anyway, anyhow, anytime, anyplace convenient. What is needed is family approval and recognition. If the two families declare and recognize you as husband and wife, that is final, it is marriage. 

This can be done at home by your family, it can be done in the court witnessed by your family or in church. No one should deceive you that there must be a certain kind ceremony with sharing food. You don’t need to invite friends and too many people to come and eat, not necessary, that is not part of marriage.

I am on the view that many people are not married because they do not know what marriage is, and they have complicated things for themselves.

Most of the problems are from the ladies, because of the high demand for ceremonies which are very unnecessary as long as marriage is concern. They do it because friends did it, meanwhile, your experience of marriage life will be totally different from theirs. You don't need white wedding gown or british suit or even special Kente cloth to marry, you are free to wear anything decent on the said day to be declared as husband and wife.

Marriage is a school because there are so many things to learn, discover, improve, to give, and to receive every day in it. It is a never-ending school. Some people say it is the only school that you are given a certificate before you begin. The introduction of certificate to the couple is for legal purposes, it does not really define marriage. 

However, one certificate is issued to you both because you have been able to pass all the laid down procedures to be declared as husband and wife, it's also your license to operate as a couple without interference in the days ahead. This is just to position your mind to focus on what you have gone in for.


The gentlemen should also know that knocking in the family house is not marriage so you cannot just do what you want with her because you went to knock. You could have just gone with your family and say we have come to marry your daughter, you pay whatever is demanded from you by her family without any ceremony, not by force.


May God help us all to do right.

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