What Forgiveness is Not

 




What Forgiveness is Not

To learn how to forgive, you must first know what forgiveness is not. Most of us hold at least some misconceptions about forgiveness. Here are some things that forgiving someone doesn't mean:

Forgiveness doesn't mean you are overlooking or excusing the other person's actions as if he didn't do anything.

Forgiveness does not always mean you have to inform the offender that you have forgiven him.

Forgiveness doesn't mean you shouldn't have any more feelings about the situation.

Forgiveness doesn't mean there is nothing further to work out in the relationship or that everything is okay now.

Forgiveness doesn't mean you should forget the incident ever happened.

Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to continue to include the person in your life.

Remember that forgiveness does not restore trust. Trust must be worked for. The fact that someone forgives does not mean that he should start trusting again the offender.

If you forgive, you are accepting the reality of what happened and finding a way to live in a state of resolution with it. That can be a gradual process—and it doesn't always necessarily have to include the person you are forgiving. Forgiveness isn't just something you do only for the person who wronged you; it's something you do for yourself.

 


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  1. UnknownApril 16, 2021 at 8:57 AM

    But forgiveness is a must and you must do everything possible to prevent the pain from having the best part of you.

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