How to Forgive a Partner Who Broke Your Heart

 

How to Forgive a Partner Who Broke Your Heart

 

When we say someone broke your heart, then it means the person promised to marry you and later left you when you were almost through to the marriage ceremony. I have had one on one talk with people who have suffered from this thing called "Broken heart". Most are women, only a few happened to be men. Mostly women are the ones that become victims of broken hearts, and some find it very difficult to overcome that, not even to talk about forgiving the offenders.

A sister told me she and her partner were together in courtship for nine (9) years, almost through, and the exact year they promised themselves marriage, in the first month of the year, the man called her only to tell her that he is no longer interested in the relationship. She was very hurt in her heart and that is a brokenhearted Lady, so can she forgive this man for wasting her time?

Another sister told me she had been with her partner for four (4) years, he promised to marry her and one day in the month July, the man called her only to tell her that he is getting married to a different woman because his parents said he should marry someone from their original tribe, meanwhile, all this while, the parents were aware and even encouraged them to marry, but see what just happened. Can she forgive him for that?

Another sister who is a very good friend of mine, was with her partner in courtship for over six (6) years, they started counseling and after one month into the counseling, the man went to marry someone else in another city. She was very hurt. Can she forgive him? 

Two sisters who have similar experiences were having a conversation with me separately. Each of them told me how they were with their partners in courtship, where there was another Lady who claims to be the man's friend. They cooked for them, sat down to chat, but before they realized, these men went ahead to marry these so-called "friend (besties)", not knowing all this while these sisters were the house girls, their maid, and their Cook… what a broken heart! Can they forgive those men?

One sister told me she was with her partner for about 5years and even had a baby for him. Then they went through all the necessary procedures to get married. Two weeks to the wedding, the man started a fight with her with a false accusation that she has sent an invitation card to her boyfriend and that fight ended their relationship forever.

There are many of them that I do not want to bore you with their stories. But the question is, can these victims forgive their offenders? and the answer is yes, they can. However, some of the ladies get so hurt to the point that they begin to pronounce curses on the man. Please don't be carried away to that point, because it’s not going to help. It is very painful though but the perfect and best antidote and cure is to forgive, which will save you from the self-poisoning of bitterness.

If you have been a victim of this kind of broken heart, you can forgive the person and still move on happily, and this is how to do that:

Develop yourself with the Strategic steps in my other post (how to forgive); having a willing heart, building your love, longsuffering, and hope for a better future ahead of you. 

Remember the principle of "let go and let GOD". It means that you should remember that what you went through was not the will of God, even that relationship wasn't God's plan for you, know that and let it go. But this time let God direct you. How could God come in if you still hold unto the hurt with Unforgiveness? Now, say to yourself "I forgive brother Y; I forgive sister X". 

After you say that, smile and tell the Lord, "Lord forgive him (her)". If (s)he calls you, make sure to respond with a clean heart and love but you don't need to call, don’t go to his house and say you have come to forgive him. Only wish good for him/her, if you attend the same church, don't stop the church, if she sings, dance to the glory of God, if he preaches in church, listen to the voice of Christ in the message, don't sin by judging him, you may end up offending God Himself. 

Pray to God to heal your heart and help you to never make that mistake of putting your trust in man again. 

The hurt will disappear in Jesus' name. You will be happy again.