How to Forgive an Irresponsible Father or a Careless Mother

 

How to Forgive an Irresponsible Father or a Careless Mother

 

An irresponsible father is a man who didn't take care of his child. Some men for whatever reasons refuse to take care of their biological children, some use their money to take care of girlfriends and other things, others though didn't have much but they never made any effort that they even care, some also didn't take care of their children because of the influences or spells of a second wife or a friend.

A careless mother is a woman who abandoned her child either when she was a baby or a little grown-up. Some do that as a result of teenage pregnancy or because they did not get a husband or someone to father her child. Others do that because of fear of shame or stigmatization from peers or family.

 If you are a victim and suffered from such careless parent(s), what must you do since you have to forgive them?

First of all, understand why (s)he did that to you. Everyone does something for a reason, whether good or bad. His reason, of course, does not make him/her right, but you just try and listen to him and understand. I mean you should ask him why (s)he didn't take care of you. Some are very wicked and selfish, no doubt about that, so they will even try to provoke you and pretend they don't need you, but just take it that you need them. Some too will tell you the whole reason, weep over it and even ask you to forgive them. If someone else could tell you the reason your father or mother didn't take care of you, take that and understand it just as it is.

You are not there to judge your father or mother; you want to forgive that's why you are taking this step. If you already know why he didn't take care of you, just think about it. As you hear or think about the reason with the willing heart to forgive, the Love of God in you begins to boil up and if you feel like crying, do it and wipe your tears. Then the longsuffering (patience) in you begins to melt to cut the supply of the dangerous feeling of hurt through your heart, and the faith that works by love, which is also a hope of something good begins to open your eyes to see the seed and image of God in the person that could bring something better from him. Then all of a sudden, the voice of forgiveness will start speaking to you and giving you the power to forgive easily without delay.

Remember, it is not so simple like that. Pray to God to help you. When that happens, say to yourself "I forgive him", then buy a special gift and present it to him, you can go to him alone or with some elderly person to speak on your behalf depending on the issue. Let him know you hold nothing against him and will never make mention of it. Remember there is a purpose for coming into this world through your biological parents, appreciate that.

 Genuinely smile at the hearing of your father or mother and call or visit regularly to show love. By the grace of the Almighty, you can do it and you will see a new upliftment in your life because of what you have done. God bless you.