Why do People Find it so Hard to Forgive



Why do People Find it so Hard to Forgive?

By forgiving, you let go of your grievances and judgments and allow yourself to heal. While this may sound good in theory, in practice, forgiveness can sometimes feel impossible. So if forgiveness is something you do for yourself and if it can help you heal, why is it hard? There are several reasons: It is because

  • You have not develop the love of God in you. Love forgives, even though love does not rejoice in evil. Grow in love.
  • You have not received the kingdom of God as a child. This is the problem of many, they can't forgive because they think they are grown but they end up punishing themselves.
  • You're filled with thoughts of retaliation or revenge; this is not a solution the evil the person has done. Leave vengeance to the LORD.
  • you enjoy feeling superior;
  • you don't know how to resolve the situation; Sometimes, it is as a result of the person not knowing what to do about the whole issue.
  • you're addicted to the adrenaline that anger provides; sometimes, you feel so good when you get angry but not knowing your heart is at stake when the anger turns into bitterness.
  • you self-identify as a victim, or you're afraid that by forgiving, you have to re-connect—or lose your connection—with the other person. In other times, you feel so afraid that when you forgive, you become friends again and receive another hurt or disappointment another day. 

These reasons not to forgive can be resolved by becoming more familiar with yourself, with your thoughts and feelings, and with your boundaries and needs. Seek advice from someone to help you when you want to forgive someone but you don't know how. 

You can do it, and even better. Receive Grace to do it.

 


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